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A proposal should be something that will always make both of you smile. If you're on the Internet searching for ideas on the best way to propose, then you already know the importance of having a game plan. You don't need to memorize a speech--in fact, you shouldn't or you might sound like a robot--but you should have a pretty good idea of the thoughts you want to convey. You really can't go wrong with sweet tradition and "Will you marry me?" But if you want to be creative, the most important thing is that it comes from your heart.

• The Conversation Unless you're a very flamboyant personality and she loves that about you, avoid overdoing it with a neon billboard or a plane towing a banner. Propose in your own words and with your own voice, and keep it simple and sweet. You can begin by mentioning a specific memory from your first date, such as what she was wearing, and how you've never forgotten that. If your memory is not that good, look ahead and tell her you can no longer envision a future without her in it. Cap the prelude with the words that started all this: "Will you marry me?" Two out of three women think those four words are the most important part of any proposal.

• The Location As important as how you are going to pop the question is where you are going to do it. Most women--58 percent, according to The Knot--think that wherever you went on your first date is the perfect place to propose. If that won't work, choose a romantic, quiet location, such as a beach, the local park, or an intimate restaurant. Ball games and airports only work on television and in the movies.

• Presenting the Ring Depending on your location, getting down on bended knee may or may not be appropriate. If you're alone, it's a lovely gesture that she'll remember forever. Do it just after you mention what she was wearing the first time you saw her and before you use the four magic words. If you're in public, however, you may cause a pedestrian traffic jam which will only work if she has a very good sense of humor. Many women want to pick out their own rings, but don't make the mistake of proposing without one. Use a substitute such as a family heirloom until you can go shopping together.Tamil matrimony If you like the creative surprise approach, buy her flowers and nestle the ring inside the rose petals. When she spots it, hopefully without your help, you can give her your sincere reasons for wanting to marry her, followed by the magic words.

• Avoid the Big Errors Never propose at someone else's wedding. It will never be your bride's own special day; she will always have to share it with another woman. A big public gathering or among family and friends is not optimal, either. Everyone will be staring at her, waiting for her reaction. And no matter what words you use, don't go on and on with it until she begins to worry if you're actually going to ask her or not. Tell her why you love her, then ask her to be your wife.